Wait, What?

So there's this woman who wrote a book on how she felt relieved after her first husband accidentally died in a car crash more than 20 years ago. People are angry at her. Why? Because apparently they have never noticed, that relief is a typical response to grieving.

I'm a little angry that people are attacking this woman, who shared her experience in a book that she co-authored and in an article published. First, if you don't like what she has to say DON'T LISTEN. Second, what she is saying is completely plausible, and any of you reading this that have dealt with the loss of someone, know this.

Relief comes with grieving. It's not a nice feeling or thought when you realize it's there (its guilt inducing) but you cannot deny that on some level, at some point in time, you hear yourself say "It's better this way." And for the most part, that is the truth. For example, your grandmother, who bakes the best cookies in the world, has been in the hospital for five months and she finally passes away. At the services, how many times do you think you will hear "She's in a better place", "At least she's not suffering anymore". And that's the way it is. That's feeling relief that the person is not there. Either relief for the fact that the individual is no longer suffering, or relief that you personally no longer have to wait day in and day out for the inevitable.

The woman, who wrote this book, said that she felt relief when her husband died because she was unhappy in her marriage. Why is this so wrong? Why do we care? Why are people up in arms over this? I don't understand what the big deal is, she wrote about something that she not only personally experienced, but something that she researched and something that she has observed in her field of counseling.

Question Everything.